I've always wondered about the What?  What  makes a relationship last? What makes a relationship hot? What makes the difference between being exciting or dull.  Some friendships are forged from the word hello and some take a longer, then there are those that are just NEVER going to happen no matter what you do. What makes the connection or lack there of.  What makes a man decide to tell you that he is no longer going to take part in any holiday day that requires his participation and that includes birthdays?(UGGGGHH  WHAT!!!!!). So after much consideration I have a few theories and want to hear from others who have wondered about the WHAT?